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Studies show that women apologize more than men, often for perfectly reasonable acts like, you know, taking up space.
… this really hit me hard. I say sorry for ridiculous reasons ALL the time. When I go to work, I have to push this huge cart that has detract-able shelves and the whole thing is quite large and heavy. I manage fine, I can maneuver it to the spot I need, even while dealing with my RA. But I have to maneuver through customers, and most of the time, they see me and they move out of the way cuz they see I’m moving something large and a little difficult to steer. Then there was this guy, who saw me, but proceeded to keep coming in my direction anyway, to the point where I had to come to a complete stop and try and move my cart over to make room for him to pass. He looked at me like I was the one who was being rude, and without even thinking about or hesitation, I said, “I’m sorry.” I find myself saying sorry all the damn time. For shite I shouldn’t even be sorry for.
Had a great time in Austin this weekend! So happy to see all the family, even with all the craziness it entailed. I absolutely loved getting to see my 3 Texas cousins, I’m absolutely amazed at the men they’ve grown into, and so very proud to call them family. I felt so touched by the effort they put into making me feel apart of the group instead of leaving me with the real adults. Each of them at different times made me feel incredibly loved and included, and I’ll be forever grateful for that. Also, being asked to dance by the tall cute groomsman didn’t suck and neither did the look on my cousin’s face when he saw me for the first time in almost 15 years…or his surprise when I managed to get his cranky little girl on my side….helllloooo confidence boosters.
Matt Chandler (via amandaandinteriors)